The BE DO HAVE model

It is a wonderfully powerful framework for lasting change, however is often over simplified and misused.

Here is the essence of the BE DO HAVE model.

Who do I need to be?

Success in any area of life always starts with a very clear picture about the results you desire. If you don’t know what the goal is, it is impossible to tell if you’ve achieved success or not.

Once we are really clear about what we want and why we want it, the game changing question in not ‘what do I need to do?’ but ‘who do I need to be?’

 Another way of asking this question is ‘what kind of a person would have access to these kind of outcomes?’

There are three common approaches to trying to get ahead in life. Only one of them actual works.

Which one are you?

The Victim

The victim arranges their life in the order HAVE DO BE

They say, “When I HAVE enough time, money and support, then I’ll DO the things I’ve always wanted to, and then I’ll BE happy and successful. The problem is I don’t HAVE yet. If I had what that person had, I’d certainly be as successful as them, but I don’t so I’m not.“ The victim is always waiting for externals to change before they can move ahead in life.

The Worker

The worker is all about
DO HAVE BE

They say, “The more I DO, the more I’ll HAVE. The more I’ll HAVE, the happier I’ll BE. The problem is, the more I do, the more there is still to do and the more I have to more there is still to have. I am defined by what I do so I become driven, busy and tired. The more I have, the more there is to lose so the harder I work.” We all know that the link between having more things and being happier is a myth, so being happy never arrives.

The Winner

The winner orients their life quite differently: BE DO HAVE

They say, “It is not what do I need to HAVE before I can start, or what work do I need to DO… but who do I need to BE? What kind of person would have access to the kind of outcomes I want? Then being that kind of person, what would I be doing? And then the having takes care of itself.”

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